silverawolf | Hope I don't bite my tongue off

There are times when we are faced with an opportunity to say nothing at all. For example, your friend says she feels fat in her jeans. Many times I would tell her "Yeah they do look like you could bust out of them." Lately, I have been placed in many positions that earlier in life I would not have been able to keep my mouth shut. I realize that the person stating a problem doesn't want me to tell them the truth, but rather comfort them in an insecurity. It can be very hard not to state the obvious of a bad relationship or a few extra pounds. I had to take the situation and reverse it. How would I feel if a close friend were to point out that I had gained weight, my hair dye was a bit extreme, or that sometimes I can be a real bitch. We all have our insecurities, but to be able to support some one positively through something is so much harder than just stating your first thought. So, yes I will bite my tongue and consider their feelings. I never know when I will feel insecure and just need a little comfort, and not a whole lot of critique.